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I've made a Match!!

Discussion in 'Meeting my 'lost cousin'' started by Tim, May 18, 2013.

  1. Welshlass

    Welshlass Member

    I’ve added 100s but the only matches I’ve had have been cousins I already know or have had previous contact with elsewhere, so disappointing for me.
  2. Kate

    Kate LostCousins Member

    I hope your family add some relevant ones for you soon then! I have added about 70 households for my family and fewer for my husband's, who I am still hunting !
  3. Pauline

    Pauline LostCousins Superstar

    I can understand that, and it was a bit like that for me when I started adding my relatives to Lost Cousins. However, having entered all my close family and moved on to more distant twigs, most of the new contacts I find now are ones I haven't previously been in touch with elsewhere. So don't give up hope!
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  4. pjd

    pjd LostCousins Star

    I have entered 1568 relatives into Lost Cousins over the last 10+ years, checked FMP links etc & have a match potential of 9.0464. However, I have just 5 contacts, 3 of whom are cousins (1 already known), 1 distantly related by marriage & 1 not related. So STILL hoping!
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  5. Bryman

    Bryman LostCousins Megastar

    Like most things in life, matches at LC start slowly and then gradually accelerate. I had several hundred entries recorded before I obtained my first match. I have now been involved with LC a little longer than you (about 15 years) but not as long as some and had been dabbling in genealogy for a few years before that. I now have over 7,000 census references entered at LC which have led to matches with 15 cousins and over 50 non-blood relatives. There are a further 15 members, including some that I have determined are cousins, that have not replied to my contact requests and reminders from Peter. My match potential is over 40. So never give up.

    The only part that I can really influence is the number of entries recorded and the census years that they relate to. Much of that is just down to luck and what data is easy to find. As Peter keeps telling us, most matches result from entries recorded for the 1881 E&W census so best to concentrate in that area as much as possible. The rest depends on others, like yourself, entering more and more references in the same areas as me. Eventually, almost every entry will be matched as soon as it is entered but we have to do the groundwork first and build up a base for LC to work its magic on.

    Matches come unexpectedly. Some years ago, I had been reading posts by another forum member who had been describing her ancestors living in and around Norfolk, an area where I have few, if any, relatives. Suddenly, a match occurred for an ancestor of mine in Sussex, where she had married the local school master . . . who originated from Norfolk. That opened up a whole new area for me.
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  6. Puddles

    Puddles LostCousins Member

    I've got my first ever match :) after 9 years and over 250 entries with more to come as I keep digging. I am now awaiting a reply from my newly discovered cousin. Excited? Well just a bit! People researching the same names on many other sites just don't bother to reply to contacts which I think a bit strange when they have paid out money for DNA kits. Maybe they think the DNA will do all the hard work for them. I know my Mum thought she would be able to find out who her Grandfather's family were just by submitting DNA. That ancestor's early years are a mystery but I did establish that he'd had a child before he "took up with" my Great-Grandmother and I am in touch with that cousin even though we can't go back along that line.
  7. Tim

    Tim Moderator Staff Member

    Great news on the match Puddles. As more people take DNA tests, you should be able to knock down that brick wall.
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  8. peter

    peter Administrator Staff Member

    Well done, though I notice that the person you've been matched with entered that relative in 2007 - so in theory you could have made the match when you joined 9 years ago!
    It's not necessarily their fault - they may not have received an email from Ancestry. Hotmail addresses are a particular problem (which is why I no longer allow new members to join with a Hotmail primary address), but all email providers are capable of losing emails that they don't like the look of.

    That's why I follow-up personally where no reply is received. Ancestry and other sites don't provide that service, but at LostCousins you get what you don't pay for.
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  9. Puddles

    Puddles LostCousins Member

    And I may well have done had I traced a line back 8 generations and then traced each and every descendant from "naughty Mary"'s grandparents who married in 1750. I discovered she had married and was not the lady I found living and "working" at an Army base with a brother with the same same and birth year as Mary. I have just bought a book named "Round the World" by Jon Smith which is a miscellany of Barningham (Tees Valley) information, published last year, which made the connection for me(1). Given that my surname has been recorded as McD*, MacD*, MackD*, D*. Ma D* and several other variations on a theme it hasn't been easy to get so far back and to trace direct descendants. I am also very short of relatives who either can, or if they can, are willing to share knowledge.

    In theory it's easy but in practice a little more difficult which is why I concentrated on my maternal line and my father's mother's line as I got a better start with family knowledge on them.

    Even today I find my surname is changed on official records from what I have entered and spelt out. My children's "original" birth certificates (issued when they were registered) have, correctly, McD* as my maiden name but in the index it is MacD* and on GRO copies it is MacD* and local copies it's MaD* which has lead to some confusion.

    (1) "Naughty Mary" is described as a "wayward daughter" in the book!
  10. peter

    peter Administrator Staff Member

    That's why we try to connect with 'lost cousins'.
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